One moment you’re enjoying a peaceful time in the grocery store, looking at the fresh produce aisle; then your little one interrupts your thoughts with some whimpering. It could be about a toy they want, a snack, or anything else, really.
Bottom line is they are not staying still and they won’t settle for any negotiation until their demands are met.
There are many factors why a child is throwing a tantrum. But often, it is caused by feeling rejected, scared, overwhelmed, tired or frustrated. Throwing a tantrum is their way of responding to something that might have bothered them during the day.
But don’t worry, it’s not an indicator that your child will grow up to be difficult. They will throw lesser tantrums when they get older, as long as you are able to manage their fits effectively. Here’s what you should do:
- Don’t fight fire with fire.
Walking out or shouting back when they are screaming on top of their lungs is not going to work.
In fact, it will just make things worse. Your child is currently consumed with emotion, and they will only respond negatively if you try to threaten or scold them.
Instead, stay calm as you can be and speak to them in a soft voice. Try to pick them up and hold them in an embrace to give them reassurance. This can also help them calm down more quickly.
- Give a tactical response.
You can try to distract them from the cause of their tantrum by taking them away from the area, giving them a snack or by providing them with a toy.
Another technique is to ignore them as long as they are not putting themselves or others in immediate danger.
- Be firm and consistent.
Don’t give in to their demands even it seems like an easy way out.
This will only reinforce the idea in their minds that throwing a tantrum is the most effective way to get what they want. You don’t want that to happen.
- Find ways to prevent it.
For a start, try to identify what triggers your little one. Could it be stress? Perhaps you have been spending less time with them lately? Maybe they are too tired from doing a lot of tasks at once?
Another way is to give them a heads up whenever you are going to switch to another activity. This will help them adjust to each transition and lower likelihood for a tantrum to happen.
However, if your child is continually having tantrums despite your efforts to contain it; check in with your child’s doctor to make sure that there isn’t anything major that contributes to their constant tantrums.
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